Thanks for actually giving an analysis haha I do see where you're coming from, especially since my truck is my DD.
yeah i got a laundry list for my truck... i have shattered tranny cross member, wicked bad axle wrap, it goes thru balljoints wheel bearings im pulling 10mpgs (it needs gears) whole suspension is tired out in the truck....
i love my lifted truck except for my shocks! it may tear somethin up tomoro but up until now, it has been fine.
just go with a 4'' then, and 35's. Ive seen them before, not as much money and still look great on 35's